BDSM for me is less about the equipment and individual fetishes and more about getting inside someone's head. There is nothing like the feeling of someone melting when you whisper to them about how you plan to use them. To me kink is about how it feels to create shared space together. I love the electric feeling I get when someone submits to me. I hit top space hard.

 

I like being taken care of. It turns me on when a man (or woman) spoils the shit out of me just because they're that into me. What can I say, I love to be appreciated - thoughtful gifts will always be my weak spot.

 

But I have two sides to that - the domme, the very empowered side that’s into being worshipped, femdom, findom, being taken care of, and having full control.

 

Then there’s the soft(er) vulnerable sub side that’s into DDLG, denial, anything daddy, etc.

 

Love the psychological dynamic behind both, but my ability to be a switch and equally myself both as a dominant and submissive shocks even me sometimes.